Like an actual tongue bite, it is painful to stay quiet when deep inside you are ready to go blow for blow, your adrenaline starts pumping, your heart is raising and you are ready for the moment to let loose and get it all out. You want to let them have it and in some cases you have every right to be upset, we are human. Even Jesus got angry and turned tables when He arrived at the temple. The problem with anger is that you can end up saying things that can hurt you as well because unlike Jesus, we are not perfect and we will face times where our emotions get the best of us and its not so easy to bite your tongue and you may say things that you later regret causing pain and changing the environment around you as a result. Maybe it may not seem like at the moment but the future of your relationship can change as a result of that one blow out. Your reaction to conflict can dictate how blessings flow into your life.
In the Bible there are a total of 126 verses about the tongue from 34 books so clearly God wants us to take it serious. Can one really learn how to bite your tongue? Is that even a thing? A few particular scriptures like in Proverbs 18:21 says "Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat it's fruits" and in Proverbs 21:23 it says "whoever keeps his mouth and his tongue keeps himself out of trouble" in Psalm 141:3 it says set a guard, O Lord, over my mouth keep watch over the door of my lips!
So, in short pray for strength that you can bite your tongue when you are tempted to react and blessings will surely overflow your life as a result. Remember how much it hurts when you actually bite your tongue, how long it takes to heal. We read in Psalm 52:2 "your tongue plots destruction, like a sharp razor, you worker of deceit" take this into consideration that your words have power to grow or to destroy a relationship. Be encouraged by Exodus 14:14 "The Lord will fight for you, and you only have to be silent".
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