Ephesians 6:11 Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the schemes of the devil.
All of us have memories watching family or friends in a relationship witnessing how they attempted to kill each other at one point or another while calling this type of behavior love. Some of these stories serve as good gossip here and there during family gatherings, when you look at the big picture these families have normalized toxic behavior in front of their children. This type of example then becomes the norm for them and the cycle continues because that is what they saw modeled in front of them and to some degree becomes normal behavior.
Changing relationship dynamics as you grow spiritually is tough and takes a whole lot of time and a whole lot of discipline. It's easier to focus on the pain and challenges than to keep your eyes fixed on Jesus, especially because Satan is crawling around looking for an open door into your life in an attempt to continue to rob your peace. His game is always the same, find you without your armor and attack to keep you from breaking a generational curse. He has got plenty to keep you busy with, if you let him!
Remember you must hate the sin not the sinner. The first step to keep the enemy at bay is taking his power away, let him know that you are aware that it is him you are fighting and not your spouse. These battles are won together As ONE! Join forces with your spouse, sit and have these difficult talks ahead of time. It is a matter of having a plan of action to identify the attack and commanding the enemy to flee because he has no power. One way to get started is to set your atmosphere, invite The Holy Spirit in and just worship. Satan cannot enter your home once you create a space of praise and worship, you and you alone have authority against his plot to divide your family.
