So many people can avoid marriage counseling and even divorce if they talk about the "What ifs" during the dating period so They know exactly how their significant other will react in any given situation, so they won’t be caught by surprise.
Here are some topics of conversation my wife and I discussed before we got married. Be encouraged, as these questions might help you start a conversation you might be afraid to start.
Who will pay the bills?
Will we have one bank account or separate accounts?
How is your credit score? If ba, why?
What is your parenting style?
Do you have any traumas from your family?
What religion do you believe in?
What beliefs will you instill in our kids?
What are your sexual expectations?
What are your expectations in having a partner?
What are your financial expectations?
Are there any generational curses that you’re aware of and don’t want to repeat?
What are your family's health issues?
What are your dreams?
Do you have a bucket list?
Where do you want to live?
What is your dream home?
What is your dream career?
What are your political views?
What is your discipline style when it comes to our future children?
You would be surprised how many people don’t ask some of these important questions during dating only to find out after they get married that this person who they thought they knew, is actually a totally different person.
I believe that just asking the right questions and being honest with yourself and your significant other will save you years of pain and even divorce. So, for people who are dating and thinking of marriage ask away. For the married couples, it is not too late to ask and get to know your spouse a little better each day in a productive manner, so as not to end your marriage sitting across from each other at a divorce table.
