There is a fine line between having grace and your human free will. While grace allows you to forgive, free will allows for the enemy to come in and take advantage of an opportunity for you to follow through you most darkest of tendencies especially when you are hurt by people who swear to love and respect you.
This is a constant battle for a believer, one of deciding when to extend grace to people who take advantage of your trust, transparency, dedication and your love.
You may find yourself holding on, having faith, choosing to see the best in them before they even see it, choosing to see them live out the God given purpose set before them, although they don’t deserve your grace all the while internally fighting a secret battle.
The struggle of human free will to look at the big picture set before you and see that some people aren’t deserving of your gift of grace, to have to struggle with discerning which way to turn is the biggest challenge for a believer, especially those in a marriage.
Sometimes you can miss the enemy’s plan as he plants subtle seeds, waters them and waits for the right time to go in for the harvest. He patiently invests his time challenging your faith and God's promises over your marriage in order to test God's covering before you even realize that is taking place.
So what do you do then?
Free will says:
give up
you deserve better
they will do it again
you cant believe a word they said
they will never change
plan your revenge
Grace says:
I forgive because Jesus lives in my heart.
Regardless of how you see it, grace is allowing "what would Jesus do" moments to take place, practicing what our Savior taught us.
Even Paul struggled, "Lord, why do I do these things which I do not want to do". Its okay to find yourself in a place where like Paul, you struggle with the flesh, maybe you want to take revenge, allow the offense to destroy the life you built together and let pride cloud your desire to gracefully forgive.
We have all been there, so ask yourself, which will give your soul peace, that peace that surpasses all understanding. You have free will to choose faith and grace or to let the enemy win the battle he crafted to kill your union, steal your future and destroy your purpose.
