Forgiveness doesn’t mean we automatically reestablish the relationship with someone who hurt or abused us. God may actually want them far away from you but in order to experience true freedom we must forgive as God has forgiven us.
Are you struggling with or have struggled forgiving? We all have, but do you understand how this is hindering your relationship with God? You are being robbed of freedom, peace and joy. You are truly letting someone rent space in your mind and life for free while they continue enjoying life and remain miserable.
This is an area definitely hard to overcome. Of course it's hard to forgive and for an ex spouse. It's hard to forgive and pray for someone that screws you financially. It's hard to forgive and pray for a mother or a father who left you. And it is hard to forgive and pray for people that you know talk about you but in order to find freedom we need to learn how to let go and let God, we need to learn to submit to what God instructs us to do. We must little by little continue building that spiritual muscle.
We can start by studying the word, especially the book of Matthew and by investing in personal development resources. When you intentionally take the words you read in the Bible and truly believe that God does reward those who forgive others with his own forgiveness we learn to let him fight our battles. When we follow the teaching of Mark 11 you then learn to experience true freedom and make room to hear from your heavenly father directly. Go to him as a friend, confess and pray to do better. Be honest with him, he knows you are human and it takes time to peel off years of hurt and abuse that only by having a personal relationship with him can help restore you.
We live in a world now where it's hard to say no to distractions of the flesh especially with social media and google making it so easy to stalk those who hurt you. It is easier than ever to feed the flesh and the enemy knows that, but you must be intentional and disciplined in order to starve that desire and this can only be done by feeding on the word to drive out unforgiveness and make room to hear God's voice.
