Riches are in the niches, Invest in your marriage

I heard the phrase "Riches are in the niches" and it spoke to me in a way that made me go down the rabbit hole of deep thought. 

I searched and came across this definition of niche “Any small, specialized  market”.  If you think about it  our lives have so many different markets; from a spouse, to a job and to our children.

 

Each of us compartmentalize our daily activities so much that we create niches.   So are the riches  truly in the niches?  Yes, if you invest in the right niche.  I believe the place you will get the greatest return on your time is investing in your marriage. I honestly believe God ordained a specific way we are to treat our spouses. I also believe that by modeling a peaceful and loving family that you create a mold for  your children to follow for generations to come. 

It’s the little things that don’t cost anything like the  undivided attention  you give them and taping into your  imagination and creativity to create memories. Do practical things each day to make your spouse and your children happy. Take the time out of your crazy day and send a text to say I love you or better yet a simple phone call to hear their voice. 

Have date nights with your spouse!  Go try new restaurants, go to the  movies or a  comedy show.  Go dancing or volunteer,  all these activities  bring you closer to align a purposeful marriage.

Be creative!  Turn a dog walk into a picnic. Turn errands into an ice cream stop.  Surprise your spouse with lunch. Attention to your spouse in even the smallest things create memories and feelings that are hard to forget, especially when you have bumps in the road which every marriage does.

If you make a mistake, own it and take responsibility by saying “I’m sorry” but not an I’m sorry to end the argument but one of truly feeling the other person side.  Your marriage is your richest niche. Make sure to pray and meditate daily on all the blessing the Lord has given to you but especially for the partner the Lord has granted you with. 

A Transparent Marriage

A quarantined proof marriage

In just two months in 2020 we were a nation of fans, churchgoers and travelers. Now we are a nation at home. A nation of zoom meetings not only for us but for our children. In all this turmoil I remember reading that spousal abuse is on the rise. It made me think what could be the cause of this. Is it that we live our lives so fast that we are accustomed to not spending time hearing our spouses? Is it that our job has been our priority instead of our marriages? And now that we are in quarantine having to share every moment of our day with our significant other that you have taken for granted.

Why do you reflect on the first time you met your spouse. Was it a funny encounter? What was your first thought? Was it love at first sight, or did you grow to love them as you got to know them? During this time that everything is on hold we should be listening, listening and listening some more to what they are saying and understand our spouses feelings. Do you have an issue that needs to be resolved? Has your marriage been struggling but you keep putting off the important things for another day? Now is the time to look at this quarantine aka reset as an opportunity to invest in your marriage.

Be encourage you to try some of these ideas:

Order food that you had on your first date.

Try to find the first movie you saw together.

Make vision boards, one for the places you have been to in the past and the second one of where you want to go, put on it your hopes, dreams and aspirations for the future of the marriage.

Find value in the time together by creating new memories. You can do this by cooking, listening to music and dancing together.

Love in a marriage is like a plant. You have to water it and give it light so it will grow. If this crisis is the new normal then don’t let your past normal dictate the future of your marriage. Go back to the beginning and remember what made you want to marry them I the first place.

A Transparent Marriage

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